We often hear about how Greeks are hospitable. What is it about Greeks and their obsession with hospitality? The answer would be one word: kerasma.
Today is my name day. Basically, most people in Greece are named after a saint and each saint is celebrated on a specific day. Therefore if you have that name you celebrate that day. So for example today is Saint Constantine’s and Helen’s, and basically anybody who has the name Helen, Eleni, Elena, Constantine, Kostas, Gus etc etc. celebrates today. Yes, that list is pretty long. In Greece name days are more important than birthdays, because everybody knows that it is your name day, so your friends have no excuse of forgetting. Plus you are not celebrating being a year older, but just celebrating your name, which really removes any worries of getting older that you may have. No candles or philosophical thoughts of what to do with your life, just celebrating…your name. Yes, a name day is definitely more fun than a birthday in my humble opinion.
Whether you are religious or not, you are expected to wish your friends who have the specific name on that day. The problem is that certain names are pretty common, so on some days you end up calling 20 + people to wish them happy name day. Or nowadays you can just use facebook and just tag everybody, I guess that’s acceptable for some people. Actually there is even a facebook app that reminds people of Greek name days in case you are wondering.
When someone celebrates here in Greece they are expected to offer a sweet to everybody and anybody who wishes them a happy name day. So you’ll see people bringing boxes of sweets to the office and setting them on their desk while all their coworkers drop by and wish them well. At schools, kids bring sweets as well, which is a nightmare sometimes, as my son comes home having eaten 5 or so sweets. Luckily these sweets, called kerasmata are usually pretty small, so the damage calorically is somewhat small too.
Years ago, when you had your name day, people just dropped by (without calling) to wish you a happy name day and of course you were expected to offer a drink, some mezedes and a sweet. My mother told me that in the smaller towns you left your front door halfway open to signify that you accepted guests for your name day, or closed if you were not celebrating. More affluent people even announced their name day in the local newspaper. My grandmother and grandfather would put ads in the paper that would say for example: Eleni (my grandma) is celebrating her name day today and accepting guests. But even if you did not have much money you still would offer something to a guest if they dropped by.
And that brings me to another practice that Greeks have: they cannot allow someone to come in their home, office, store etc. without offering their guest something to drink accompanied by a little sweet. Even if you are not celebrating anything.
I remember at first, going to job interviews here in Greece and the first thing they would ask me is, if I would like a coffee, a juice, a soft drink? Coffee? I thought they would ask for my resume. Which makes you wonder: am I here for a job interview or for a pleasant cup of coffee? I often go by my neighbors, just to ask something quickly and they always have to offer a sweet to me and my kids even if I’m there just for a minute. It is considered rude and cheap to not offer a guest something to drink along with something to eat. You don’t even really have to like them. For Greeks what you offer in your home is a reflection of who you are.
A typical kerasma may be a glass of water with a small glass of a liquor and a spoon sweet. Or you may offer wine (or other alcohol) with some savory tidbits (wine is never served alone). And you never asked your guests if they want something, you bring it to them automatically once they sit down. As my grandmother used to say: “You only ask the sick if they want something”.
But even if you were poor you still offer something to a guest. Maybe a few nuts, some bread with a bit of wine, but something nevertheless. My mother remembers going to some sort of farm owned by relatives when she was little, and the people didn’t have anything to offer, so they offered them each a spoon of honey.
But why is it such a big deal? For Greeks someone who does not offer anything to their guests is looked down upon. They are considered antisocial, uncivilized and generally not respected. That’s pretty harsh, I know, but somehow it makes sense…
I’m married to George Treantafelles whose mother was Panagiota Paravantis from Ahladokambos Greece. Wondering if you are a relative?
Enjoyed reading your blog on Name Days and Hospitality
Look forward to more.
Thanks, Helen Rumanas Treantafelles
Hi Helen, Thank you for your email! We are for sure relatives, still looking into the link.
Χρονια Σου Πολλα Έλενα Με Γλυκες Χαρες!!!!
Xronia Polla Elena!!
Thank you Dena, to you too!
A lovely custom. Thinking on this I can only imagine how it would make us much more social. We always have something to share with others, no matter how small. I must see how I can make this a part of who I am. Thank you!
In fact the Greeks are very nice to visitors and the food is the best in europe very rich with healthy fats like olive oil and others. I love the Greek culture. Congratulations for this amazing blog.
I will retune to Greece.
A belated Happy name day to you Elena!
I have a dear friend (an “adopted sister”) in Athens and this article really helps me to understand Greece and Greek culture. Where could I find this name day list?
Thank you Bev! Here is a site that you can look up the days: http://www.namedays.gr/index_uk.php
Happy names day to you! My names day is Sept 7 (Kassiane). What are the names of the pastries in the picture? They look so delish! If you ask me, more folks should adopt the Greek way of hospitality. So much nicer than the brusque ways people all too often seem to have nowadays.
Hello Sabrina, Thank you! It is a variety of sweets:
kourabiethes (the white ones: here is the recipe https://www.olivetomato.com/kourabiedes-greek-christmas-butter-cookies/)
Sesame cookies (koulourakia- usually made with olive oil)
Voutimata(butter cookies dipped in chocolate)
Paximadia (Greek version of biscotti)
Xronia polla, Elena
Thank you Michael!
Χρόνια πολλά Έλενα!
Happy name day! xo
Thank you Susan!
Xronia polla, Elena!
Thank you Maria!
Happy name day:) the greek tradition is very interesting, thank you for sharing this with us. I remember my holidays in Greece and the hospitality of the family that run the hotel where we staid – the number of free drinks served during dinner.
In Poland celebration of name day is also very popular, especially among the generation of my parents and grandparents. I have my name day this Saturday and I am expecting my family for a cake and drinks.
Happy Name day Zuzanna! Thank you for sharing. Do you have special traditions with name days in Poland?
Happy name day Elena!
Thank you Janice!
My students and I got a good “taste” of that hospitality when we visited Nafplio. Even the goat herders we met on a hike offered us Easter cookies and nuts from their tree. Spoon fruit was offered by a family as we rested under a tree. We met the whole family. We think we practice southern hospitality here in Louisiana but it’s nothing like what we experienced in Greece which is one reason why I can’t wait to return. Judy
Looking forward to seeing you Judy!